Father and son trip cancelled on account of a case of Mom
Well, yesterday I got a call from my mom informing me that she'll be coming along with us on the trip down to see my great-aunt Norma this weekend. I'm a bit bummed out, because I was really looking forward to having this time with my dad and me alone, but my mom is unapproachable on this. She's gotten so lonely and so insecure that she cannot stand to be alone, and no one else is around to take her off our hands. I mean, don't get me wrong -- I love my mom, and under normal circumstances, I wouldn't mind having her along, but for me, the whole point of going through this exercise so close to the birth of my second son is to get some time to connect and reflect with my dad on the trip, not just to go see my great aunt. So, I don't know what I should do. I would tell them, but I know it's just gonna make my mom sad, and I don't want to hurt her feelings. At the same time, I know I'm just going to get subjected to mom and dad fighting on the trip. Maybe I just need to let go of it, and see what comes of it. Who knows, maybe it'll be a great experience and it'll give us a chance to bond, or it will give me a chance to confront the both of them about past issues. I don't know. I do think I need to talk to my dad at least, and tell him I'm disappointed that we're not going just alone, and that he and I need to schedule some time together. Of course, with the new baby coming, that's gonna be a long ways off.
Anyone feel like babysitting my mom for a weekend?
Man, this sucks dude. I totally feel your disappointment, and I think it's completely deserved. Graham has a similar issue with his mother and father. I wish you could spent that time with your Dad, I think you had an excellent attitude heading in and I think it could have been extremely productive. Chances like that are so rare. (Can we make them possible more often ourselves for our kids! Damn right!!!)
Oh, and have I mentioned I LOVE YOUR BLOG? You suck for doing this once-a-day thing, *I* might have to now, and that's a lot of unplanned time and effort spent on a new endeavor. But it sure helps me keep up on your shit and find out more about you. You suck.
You know, it's not so hard when you get into the rhythm of it, and when you allow yourself to write crap. My biggest issue was always wanting to sound profound or even at least interesting. I've removed all such constraints, and just know I have to come to the table with SOMETHING, be it crap or beautiful. And more often than not, it's better than I expected.
Hopefully your sister won't ever read your blog to see that I offered this suggestion but why don't you drop your Mom off at your sisters in Rio Vista. :) Out of the way, yes but worth it for the alone time. Then it could be father son time and daughter mom time.
I called and talked to her about the issue, and figured she'd offer to take mom off my hands if she had the time/space. She didn't, so I didn't press the issue.